Are you bringing your mother with you when you go bridal gown shopping? Or maybe you’re a mother preparing to join your engaged daughter on her dress shopping journey. Read this first!
Brides, shopping for your wedding dress can be exciting… but it can also be stressful! We get it. You want the perfect dress in the perfect style and at the perfect price for your big day.
But there can be challenges beyond the searching and budgeting and sometimes the people you bring with you can unintentionally give you some anxiety! We’ve seen it time and time again; family and friends join a bride-to-be on her dress shopping day and shoot down a dress that the bride loves. And more often than not, it’s the mother of the bride who isn’t in agreement.
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Weddings are huge events and they often grow in such a way that they take on a life of their own. When so many people are involved in the planning—and especially when other people are paying for it—strong voices can get caught up in the whirlwind of making decisions and giving opinions. Sometimes, the people you care about can take it a step too far.
So brides, this next bit is for your moms to read. To all the moms out there, here are three helpful tips for perfecting your role as mother of the bride while dress shopping:
Moms, we love you. Your daughter loves you. You love your daughter. One of the most important things to keep in mind while your daughter is picking out the perfect dress is that she needs your support. Ask the bride-to-be what designs, styles, and looks she is envisioning for her big day and then help her, along with shop staff, to select some options that fit what she’s looking for.
It’s about her. Try to be open-minded when the bride suggests ideas or opinions that you might not necessarily agree to at first. Being helpful and kind as she tries on different gowns will help put her at ease. With your guidance and support, she’s sure to choose something lovely and you’ll be able to share that special moment with her.
Tactful Honesty is Key
Being supportive doesn’t mean that you can’t express your opinions. Keep in mind that the bride-to-be asked you to join her for a reason! She’s looking for your feedback and your thoughts. Perhaps you can encourage her to keep her budget in mind if she starts to stray, or pose questions on the fit or size. Choose your words carefully. Avoid comments that are too negative and instead aim to be constructive. Don’t feel as if you can’t be honest with the bride, but honesty and kindness should go hand in hand.
Put Her First
Putting the bride’s wants first might be difficult, especially if you’re footing the bill for the wedding gown, but keep in mind that this is not your big day, it’s hers. If she really loves a gown and you’re not completely on board, sometimes it might be a good idea to support her in her decision instead of nay-saying a dress she loves. By putting her thoughts and opinions first, she’ll feel comfortable and supported to make the important decisions she must to make her day amazing.
Dress shopping can be a fun and exciting time during the wedding planning process and we hope these helpful reminders are useful to all the mothers of the bride out there during their next dress shopping experience!